13. Better Together

UPDATE TIME! Mercer is finishing his third of seven treatment blocks and his progress is steady and typical. We’re still on plan A, and he’s responded well to everything so far! All our plans continue to be written in pencil — there are delays, breaks between blocks, and unforeseen circumstances lurking at every turn. We have finished a long, hard winter but we still have all of spring and likely all of summer here at RMH. There might be sections of treatment where we can remain in Nanaimo for portions of time but as of yet, it’s uncertain. If I’ve learned anything — it’s that you can only plan on the plans to change haha 😅

After 113 days apart, Mercer and I have been reunited with his brothers Vance and Conrad! No one would have expected it to be that length of time without a visit — but we all know what happens to the best laid plans! We endured and survived and it’s shown us how strong and resilient we all are.

Because of numerous family dynamics and circumstances, we collectively decided that Conrad and Vance should live with Mercer and I in Vancouver for the remainder of treatment. It’s a decision made with lots of consideration, prayer, thoughtfulness and intentionality from both his parents. One of RMH’s key tenets is “keeping families together” and I am humbled and excited to be able to be the boys’ primary parent in this season and moving forward. 

I’m proud of the choices and sacrifices we have all made to get to where we are. Mercer is stable and we are settled in at RMH and it’s the perfect footing for his brothers to join us. There is still a long road ahead for us— one that includes many varied needs. Mouths to feed, bodies to clothe, pivoting to homeschool which means a delay in returning to work, duplicate items between our RMH home and our Nanaimo home, travel costs for Conrad and Vance to return to the island as necessary.

While the pressure on me as a single parent is undoubtedly increasing, the emotional toll and stress on myself and my children is reduced as we get to be together. And I am continually in awe of the fantastic community that we have rallied around us. We are surrounded by friends and family, encouraged by prayer and kindness, flooded with well wishes and care, and overwhelmed by people’s continual generosity and kindness. It’s been such a blessing to me personally as a mother and it’s been a direct benefit to my children who are now able to live together and continue to make positive memories even in the most difficult of circumstances.

Our road has been paved with miracles and goodness and I look forward with optimism to my family’s future. Mercer is mighty and his fight is our fight— THANK YOU for helping this family stay together and for all the amazing and infinite ways you’ve helped us at every stage. Thank you! 💛🌟